Of most of the things I’ve learned from her, some might wonder… well, didn’t you learn that early on? Maybe, maybe not. It’s easy to say to someone, be this or be that, but to actually help them achieve it is quite another. What I can say for certain is that if it didn’t sink in before, it did now. And what I am still learning, well, I’m a work in progress.
Here’s some of the things I’ve learned…
Take care of yourself. Truthfully, I’m lucky to be where I’m at, which is relatively healthy. But I would not be here if Rachel hadn’t made me eat three squares, get back to the gym and set health goals for myself. I ballooned up for a while - when I started a desk job - but have since dropped the majority of that weight, and continue to drop. I will meet my goals.
Ask for what you want. It was a new concept for me to have the ability to say: I’d rather order out tonight or I’d rather stay in and watch the game. How hard is that? You’d be surprised. So many of us are chained to the thinking that we need to be compliant. Happy wife, happy life? Forget that! If you are not happy, then the other person won’t be either. It helps when you have someone you can have open communication to express your thoughts and feelings so you can get to the core of what you really want. If you can’t help yourself, you can’t help anyone else.
Be strategic and think ahead. To be honest, I’m still working on this. I’m usually thinking of the next step, but it’s Rachel’s specialty to have foresight. She’s always thinking ahead and sometimes even formulating solutions to problems that have yet to occur. On one point, you could say this is paranoia, but in real life, it’s actually proved very helpful. I’m able to avoid some unfortunate surprises by thinking ahead
Life is short: accomplish what you want while you are here. Let’s all get real. We never know when our time is going to come. It may be tomorrow, next week, next year, 40 years from now. We just don’t know. If you were to cash in the chips tomorrow, would you be satisfied with what you’ve done with your life? The message is simple – go after what you want! Now!
I can hear Rachel now, ‘Never be satisfied with status quo, ask the right questions and communicate.’ Simple, but it’s helped me reach my goals in life and in ways I never thought possible. It’s said that your significant other is your ‘better half.’ I can say this with certainty about my wife – and I can say I’m working on becoming a better half, thanks to her.